Those going through a divorce with children know it is more than just the split of a married couple — it also means a new definition of family life. Parents need to reevaluate everything from the logistics of getting their kids to school to discipline to actual time spent with their children.
This time of year, as the tree colors are changing and the weather cools, our thoughts often shift towards upcoming holiday celebrations. When divorcing or recently divorced, this can lead to questions about what the upcoming holidays will look like.
Will I see my children for the holidays?
The answer is likely within the final divorce agreement. Those going through a divorce either negotiate the agreement or have a court ordered agreement. In either situation, it should outline specifics of child custody, including how to handle holidays. The first step towards answering this question is to review these documents.
This serves as an important reminder for those who are currently going through a divorce. The power of these documents cannot be understated. They will guide family life long into the future. Take the time to review any potential agreement and understand their implications to mitigate the risk of surprises once you finalize the divorce.
How can I better ensure we enjoy our holiday celebrations?
Ideally, you and the other parent will be able to come up to a respectful arrangement that is in line with the provisions in the divorce agreement. This may mean that you see the children every other holiday or otherwise split time with the other parent.
There are many ways you can make the holidays enjoyable and memorable. Consider making new traditions with children, potentially including celebrating on the days you are together instead of the actual holiday itself. Find ideas that sound fun and make them your own. This helps to better ensure that the children look back fondly on family holidays together, even after the divorce.